I’m dancing in a dream. In my head I know the steps to take, but my feet seem glued to the floor. I keep looking at them, trying to make them move. My partner keeps trying to tell me to look at him, he’ll show me how to move. But I can’t look at him. Not until I can do it on my own.
I feel like this is true lately. I’ve watched my quality of life decline as I have stopped exercising and stopped eating well. I have sought God, but only on things that are separate from my physical being. I have forgotten that it is all connected, the physical, the emotional and the spiritual. I have watched as my mood has swung out of my control, I yell more, I hide more from my family, I am impatient. I have watched as my energy has depleted, taking me away from my husband and my kids, even from my work a little bit. Can exercise and eating well really mean this much?
And then the feelings of shame and frustration with myself. For not having the will power to do something. For making unhealthy choices over and over again. For failing my family and myself and God.
God has placed me into the perfect place for this time. I am participating in a Bible study called “Unglued” by Lisa TerKeurst. Even though it is speaking about bringing our emotions under control, the principles have spoken to me about bringing my physical health under God’s control as well.
Principle #1: Remove the labels!
We label ourselves all the time. Others label us. Society labels us. Some of these labels seem positive: organized, powerful, gentle. The problem lies not in what the label says (although many of them are negative), but in the nature of the label itself. When we label something, we are giving it identity. This box is for cars…nothing else can go into it. Labels tell us that we are summed up in one word. Then when we fail to be that one thing, we feel guilty, shamed, a failure.
So I have labelled myself as a healthy person, but then I have failed to be that healthy person, which explains my infinite feelings of guilt and shame over that failure. But I was never meant to be “only” a healthy person. I was meant to be someone more than that, I was meant to be Jenny. There are so many other facets to my identity beyond being a healthy person.
Principle 2: Identify the issues
Identifying the issues in my life does not mean I AM my issues. They are a very small part of who I am. IT is beneficial to know what you need to work on, for then your prayers and goals can be specific. Your actions can be focused. One NEEDS to be moving forward, and we NEED to know our issues in order to take the steps that will bring change.
My issues are food addiction and emotional eating, both of which lead me to overeat and eat bad for me food. Then my hormones get out of wack and I feel tired and unmotivated. Then I can’t seem to get off my butt to exercise. Then I begin to feel ashamed and guilty. Then I start yelling at my kids and husband. Then I feel stressed. Then I eat. It’s a vicious cycle.
Principle 3: Make imperfect progress.
Perfect progress is an impossibility. Yes, we were made to be the image of God, but even God knows that we are not going to attain that goal while here on earth. There is to much brokenness in us and around us. But He has a plan.
He gives us glimpses of the perfect ‘us’ he created. He gives us strength and wisdom to take baby steps toward completeness. He gives us grace to cover over our earthly imperfections. And he gives us reminders that this is not the end, it is only a small part in His eternal plan. He holds our completeness in His hand, waiting for eternity.
I think that this verse sums up this idea.
“ For now, we see only a reflection as in a mirror;then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.” 2 Corinthians 13:12
And so, knowing that we will only see a reflection of our perfectness here on earth; knowing that God’s grace covers over us; knowing that He walks behind and beside and in front of us helping, protecting and carrying; we can confidently take baby steps forward, imperfect progress.
It is this study that has motivated my husband and I to take baby steps towards physical health, which in turn will help us become the parents and partners we want to be, which in turn will lead our children and others (we hope) to be kingdom minded. This is one of our abundant life goals…
Now time to look up, into God’s eyes and let him help me move my feet in baby steps…dancing towards his light…imperfectly, but dancing nonetheless.